Femininity Part III

The final aspect of a feminine woman is her manner. A woman can look feminine on the outside, and have feminine instincts and feelings, but if her manner is masculine, it will ruin the entire effect.

Imagine a pretty woman sitting in a restaurant, with long, shiny locks of hair held back in a ribbon. She is wearing a lovely silk dress and open toed shoes with bows. She is the picture of beauty and femininity...but then she starts to crack obscene jokes, and laugh loudly at her own humor while slapping her knee. Or she loudly calls out to a waiter "Excuse me! Excuuuuse me!". Maybe she slams her hands on the table to emphasize a point she is making while chatting, or sits with her legs apart, or swings back her head while drinking beer from a bottle. Perhaps when she gets up to use the restroom, she walks in a masculine manner, stepping down hard with each step or swinging her arms. If a man was admiring her femininity before, do you think he is now? Do you think anyone is?

Certain mannerisms are important to the feminine appearance...the way a woman moves her body, her hands, how she walks, talks, laughs, the expressions she makes. The more feminine she is, the more delightful she is to men, who in contrast have mannerisms that are stronger, harder, quicker, and more firm.

A feminine woman moves calmly and delicately, and walks gracefully. She does not rush clumsily or nervously around. She stands with good posture, and uses her hands gently. She does not point, or wave her hands about wildly, or slap others on the back, or wag her finger in a disciplinary manner. She does not stomp around, or stand about with folded arms, and when she sits her knees are together. When she laughs, her laugh should be delightful, not like the shrieks of a hyena, or snorts, or guffaws. When she smiles, she smiles with her whole face, a natural, lovely smile that includes her eyes and the apples of her cheeks. There are no fake smiles, no pursed smiles, and no exaggerated smiles.

When she speaks, she speaks gently, almost like cooing. (Marilyn Monroe and Melanie Griffith are good examples of this...a baby voice is not necessary, but a sweet, melodious voice is a lovely trait). She does not talk too boldly or too fast, or say things that are tacky or rude. She does not whine, or nag, or talk incessantly out of nervousness, and she certainly does not brag or cuss or interrupt others.

It is also important to remember that your expressions indicate the person you are inside. If you often roll your eyes, constantly furrow your brows, frown, narrow your eyes, etc you lose feminine appeal. Try to look serene and happy. Do not fidget, bite your nails, tap your foot, or do anything that would indicate that you are a nervous or high-strung person. If this is difficult to do, you may have stresses or worries that need to be dealt with. If you do not, there is no reason to make habits of such ugly manners. Learn to be patient and calm so that your unconscious actions reflects this. A woman that is gentle and tender-hearted does not go around criticising others, speaking sharply to them, or rolling her eyes.

When you converse with others, do not dominate the conversation. Allow others to speak. Do not interrupt, or object to someone expressing their opinion, do not gossip, or say anything to embarass anyone present (or not present). This shows a lack of refinement and manners, and a feminine woman has manners. Don't discuss personal issues or ask anyone personal questions, especially when others are present to hear their answer.

It should go without saying that you do not kiss or stroke your husband or boyfriend in public (because it is rude to make others uncomfortable), and you do not dress in a tacky or classless manner, you do not fix your undergarments (pantyhose or bra straps) in front of others, or pick your teeth in public, or purposely ignore people, or speak sarcastically, or any other thing that good sense would indicate a feminine woman with class would not do. A feminine woman takes measure to ensure she always appears lovely, dignified, and well-mannered and she takes measure to ensure that others feel comfortable around her.

"A feminine woman has the effect of a sunrise on a man's soul." -Henry Makow Ph.D.

Go to Femininity Part I, II, IV
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