Femininity Part II

A woman with a feminine nature has certain characteristics. She tends toward being soft, delicate, and weaker in strength and nature than her firm, physically strong male counterpart. This weakness is not in moral character or courage, however.

A feminine woman doesn't lift heavy items, she is not the one to argue for a better deal for a car, she does not change tires, she does not yell at her neighbors, she is not aggressive, or argumentative, or harsh. She lets her husband take care of those strenuous things (or father, if she is single).

This is part of his role, his "sweat" ("In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread till thou returns unto the ground" Genesis 3:19), how he slays dragons for his lady love, how he "brings home the bacon". He leaves his cave and goes out into the wild to hunt, and it's a role men are good at and embrace. When a woman takes on these burdens, it takes away from her feminine nature.

She tends toward being submissive, unless she is asked to do something immoral. She follows her husband's lead, she depends on his masculine care and protection. He is the strong arm she leans on, he protects her and makes her feel safe, he is the breadwinner and provides for her. A feminine woman's life is home-oriented, and in order to be successful there, she needs a man to take care of her and take outside burdens off of her, so she can focus on building up their home and family, and do so successfully.

A feminine woman is tender. She has a natural sympathy for the helpless and the suffering. She may even cry at the end of a novel or movie. This instinct is a beautiful aspect of a feminine woman and fascinating to a man, who are not so inclined to be as emotional. She should not feel silly for it or stifle these tender emotions that are part of her natural make-up.

The feminine woman tends to be afraid...of speeding in a car, of bugs, of going out alone at night, of mean people, of barking dogs. She should not pretend to be brave if she is afraid, and she should not march ahead into possible danger because she is ashamed of her fear. It makes a man feel manlier to protect his woman from her fears, to kill spiders for her, to escort her at night, and she should let him. Her man is there to protect her, and she should appreciate his protection.

A feminine woman is like a delicate flower. If she is single, she does not pursue men. Does a flower chase after bees? She is pursued by her suitor(s), and uses her heart and mind, and her feminine instict (her feelings) to decide if a man has character, if he truly loves her, if he can make her happy, if they have similar values and life goals, and if she in turn can love and accept him as he is. She allows herself to be courted, and allows a man to stop courting her if he chooses. She does not start to pursue him if he stops pursuing her.

A feminine woman does not make things happen (this is aggressive), she allows nature to take it's course. She is receptive to the attentions of a man she likes and responds to his interests, but does not approach men, she does not call men to ask for dates, she does not shower him with gifts and flowers, and she certainly does not propose! If she is married, she gives her husband space, and allows him to find her when he is done with his duties (work, lawn care, reading the newspaper) if he chooses. She does not wait around either...she is busy cooking, cleaning, taking a bath, drinking tea, gardening, reading a good book, going for a refreshing walk. A feminine woman does her feminine tasks gladly and also enjoys life.

Go to Femininity Part I, III, IV