I can't believe how many people have asked me recently for my son's social security number to get him a savings bond or other financial gift. With all the identity theft going on today, why would I want to share it with anyone? It's very easy to accidentally misplace this information or have it stolen if it's written down, and after having four people request it in the last two weeks, I've become frustrated beyond belief.
On the one hand, I don't want to be rude and imply that I don't trust the requestor. On the other hand, I would never ask anyone for such private information for their child, and to be honest, since my husband and I have an account set up for him, I actually don't understand why they would insist on a savings bond over donating money to his personal savings account, or giving us cash or a gift card. If I lose it, I have nothing for him, and the gift has little value to him for 10-20 years as it is.
You actually don't even need the recipients social security number anymore, you can use your own. When I shared this with the requestor, they would quickly backtrack. If you won't give a gift with your social security number, what makes you think I'd give you my son's? I keep trying to think of a good response when people ask, but apparently I'm the rude one for not simply freely handing out this number. The four conversations went like this:
I'd like your son's social security number for a savings bond.
I don't feel comfortable giving that out. If you really want to get him a savings bond, you can always use your own number.
[Look of extreme offense follow as well as complaints to my parents that I was rude]
I'd like your son's social security number for a savings bond.
We really don't need a gift. Your presence at his party is our gift.
No, I'd really like to get him a savings bond.
Well, I have to search for it, but really, you don't have to.
Ok, search for it. I'll call you later in the week to check up.
I'd like your son's social security number for a savings bond.
We have an account set up for him. If you want to give him a financial gift, you can give us the money to put in his account.
No, I'd like to choose my own financial gifts for him. I think savings accounts are outdated anyway.
[and savings bonds aren't? and questioning our financial choices for our son is not rude??]
I'd like your son's social security number for a savings bond.
You don't need that anymore. You can use your own, or give him a different type of gift.
[We never heard from them again, lol....at all]
I'm not sure if it's because a savings bond looks like a bigger gift (a $50 savings bond costs $25) but the inconvenience to the parent who has to hold on to it for many years for it to mature, making sure not to lose or misplace it, and having no gift at present to offer their child, on top of the insecurity of having their child's social security number out in the whole of identity theft, makes it a very poor gift choice to me. A small gift of money or a gift card, a toy or clothes, or simply time spent with the child, all make much better gifts for a child and are more useful and convenient for parents as well.
Just to make sure I don't seem like a selfish, mean person, because I realize I may be coming across as demanding, I'd like to clarify that I don't really care if we don't get a gift at all. I feel gifts are always optional and not required, and I'm happier with our little guy being surrounded by those he loves and no gifts. I just really don't like the idea of a gift that requires someone to have his private information in order for him to receive anything. Just come to the party and have cake, and let his important, private information stay private.
On the one hand, I don't want to be rude and imply that I don't trust the requestor. On the other hand, I would never ask anyone for such private information for their child, and to be honest, since my husband and I have an account set up for him, I actually don't understand why they would insist on a savings bond over donating money to his personal savings account, or giving us cash or a gift card. If I lose it, I have nothing for him, and the gift has little value to him for 10-20 years as it is.
You actually don't even need the recipients social security number anymore, you can use your own. When I shared this with the requestor, they would quickly backtrack. If you won't give a gift with your social security number, what makes you think I'd give you my son's? I keep trying to think of a good response when people ask, but apparently I'm the rude one for not simply freely handing out this number. The four conversations went like this:
I'd like your son's social security number for a savings bond.
I don't feel comfortable giving that out. If you really want to get him a savings bond, you can always use your own number.
[Look of extreme offense follow as well as complaints to my parents that I was rude]
I'd like your son's social security number for a savings bond.
We really don't need a gift. Your presence at his party is our gift.
No, I'd really like to get him a savings bond.
Well, I have to search for it, but really, you don't have to.
Ok, search for it. I'll call you later in the week to check up.
I'd like your son's social security number for a savings bond.
We have an account set up for him. If you want to give him a financial gift, you can give us the money to put in his account.
No, I'd like to choose my own financial gifts for him. I think savings accounts are outdated anyway.
[and savings bonds aren't? and questioning our financial choices for our son is not rude??]
I'd like your son's social security number for a savings bond.
You don't need that anymore. You can use your own, or give him a different type of gift.
[We never heard from them again, lol....at all]
I'm not sure if it's because a savings bond looks like a bigger gift (a $50 savings bond costs $25) but the inconvenience to the parent who has to hold on to it for many years for it to mature, making sure not to lose or misplace it, and having no gift at present to offer their child, on top of the insecurity of having their child's social security number out in the whole of identity theft, makes it a very poor gift choice to me. A small gift of money or a gift card, a toy or clothes, or simply time spent with the child, all make much better gifts for a child and are more useful and convenient for parents as well.
Just to make sure I don't seem like a selfish, mean person, because I realize I may be coming across as demanding, I'd like to clarify that I don't really care if we don't get a gift at all. I feel gifts are always optional and not required, and I'm happier with our little guy being surrounded by those he loves and no gifts. I just really don't like the idea of a gift that requires someone to have his private information in order for him to receive anything. Just come to the party and have cake, and let his important, private information stay private.
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ReplyDeletefirst of all, my day out with thomas pics will be posted tomorrow..
lol, was just a teaser today (really annoying my parents!)
as for your post..
I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN!
our apartment wanted his...
I told them they were crazy... he was just over 1 and i was not giving ANYONE (except the dr office) is SSN
they realized that was not a smart move on our part and dropped it. but i thought they were OUT OF THEIR MIND!
I wouldn't want want to give my kids' ss# out, either.
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't give that information out either!!! And if someone thinks that you are rude for keeping that info secret and safe then...well...screw them! YOU'RE the parent, YOU'RE the responsible one that has to protect him, his identity and his future and YOU'RE the one who gets to decide! It's YOUR child! If they can't understand that then they can enjoy the birthday cake sitting at the curb! :)
ReplyDeleteWhen it comes to my kids SSN's, I give them only when ABSOLUTELY necessary. And there are few times that it is actually necessary. So, no, they couldn't have my kids SSN either.
ReplyDeleteMy dad always buys my kids savings bonds for their birthdays. He's the only one besides my husband and I that have the numbers though :)
ReplyDeleteJust explain that he's in the states illegally and you'd appreciate their candor.
ReplyDeleteProblem solved!
No way would I give that out!
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't give it out either. I don't give our kids' numbers out except when I fill out our yearly paperwork for the Army. Other than that, no one needs them since my kids don't pay taxes yet.
ReplyDeleteTell them your identity theft provider e.g. LifeLock recommends that you don't give out your son's SSN to others for Savings Bond Purchases and that you are going to follow their recommendations.
ReplyDeleteMy 21 yr old son has 15 savings bonds that he was given at the age of 5 months old for his christening. Even with these already reaching maturity they aren't worth the paper they are printed on. They value hasn't even caught up to the amount on the paper. AND THEY ARE MATURE> They stop gaining interest.
ReplyDeletePeople need to realize savings bonds aren't what they used to be and although it costs them not nearly what they are worth it's a cheap way of buying a gift that appears be like something when its not.
This is just my experience with them. Our family members use their own social sec. numbers I still can't find them even after looking for 4 yrs lol. My response is DO YOU KNOW HOW LONG THAT WILL TAKE ME TO FIND>....holds em off and they get so aggravated after months they either forget or use their own LOL